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Digital Dating: A Guide For the Modern Man

inrecovery — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 13:33:25 +0000

I’ve been meeting people online since back in the very eatly AOL chat room days. Back then it was really easy because the women online at that time were early adopters of the new chat technology and they were open to the ideas of being adventurous or meeting new people in person offline after exchanging a few messages with them. These days, many women have tried the large ‘mainstream’ dating sites you’ve seen advertised on television and decided they are a scam because filling in a huge survey or paying a lot of money to be a member doesn’t make them any more likely to find a lover. So, the real question becomes… where did all those cool sweethearts from the early days go?

Take a look at a site like Fling.com, it’s got a huge underground population of web surfers who are looking to hookup and have a good time. Because it has not been commercialized the way the TV dating sites have been by huge corporations… Fling still attracts a big pool of people to it every single day. You can signup at Fling for Free (which is a really easy way to tell that Fling is not a scam site). They don’t waste your time with long complicated surveys and they aren’t steering you toward one profile search or another. Within minutes of making an account you’ll be able to see the difference between a real dating site like Fling, and the crappy scam sites that big companies keep spawning to steal your money.

Best of all, because Fling attracts the same kind of early adopters that headed for the chat room craze for years back, the quality of the women and men online is much higher than many new members might expect. These are people who are excited to meet other interesting singles, couples and even the occasional cheating housewife for passionate rendezvous in their own local area.

Keep in mind, modern dating sites like Fling have a lot of new innovative ways to make searching for a hookup much easier than it was back in the chat room days. You don’t need to open up a room and wait to find someone in your area, the site allows you to geo-target your profile searches to find people in walking or driving distance of wherever you are at any moment. My wife and I are swingers and we use Fling all the time to find local couples for hot dates whenever we have to travel somewhere on business… or we use it to prearrange a bunch of hookups with local singles and couples for our vacation hotspots before we arrive. If you aren’t using modern dating sites to find offline fun you are missing out on a lot of great times with great people.

Staying Healthy and Safe While Dating Online

inrecovery — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 14:26:10 +0000

As more people become connected online it seems only fitting that so many would now be joining the growing pool of people who visit online dating sites like Fling.com, skeptical at first and perhaps too carefree eventually. One of the goals in writing this Blog is to help people realize the responsibilities that come along with the excitement of online dating. I am a social worker and I council people dealing with teenage pregnancy. One thing I have heard time and again is “when I started using a dating site I figured it would just be a scam and nothing would come of it.” In fact, dating sites like Fling.com do work, and they may actually work all too well!

Contrary to what some people may believe, dating sites really do make it quite easy for people to meet new potential partners, and also make it far easier to make casual connections with others for short term, high energy, intimate interactions. While dating online is safe and effective, sometimes it becomes so easy to meet a man or woman online that people forget to take the precautions they would if they were meeting someone offline.

Sexually transmitted diseases are real, pregnancy is possible, and while there is no method of birth control or STD prevention more effective than abstinence, it would be silly to think that people will refrain from meeting others for casual sex now that sites like Fling.com make it so easy for people to do.

Be sure to bring a condom, never rely on the other person to have one with them. Never assume that the date will end without any intimacy. In fact, most dates arranged online do result in some kind of physical intimacy because of the feelings of familiarity that come along with having met the other person online and gotten to know them prior to the first meeting in person. Put simply, when you go out to play… be sure to play safe!

Tips For Dating On A Tight Budget

inrecovery — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 13:46:47 +0000

I’m a credit councilor and I spend my days helping people find ways to work out a budget they can stick with, to help them get out of debt so they can get on with their lives. Something I see very often is that money problems often lead to family problems including divorce and breakups among formerly happy couples. The hardest part of making a workable budget for most people is staying within that budget while trying to find a new relationship. Most people think that dating needs to be expensive, and the fact is that is really doesn’t have to be if you do it intelligently.

As one simple example, most people invite a first date to go out to dinner. If you examine the menus at any restaurants, you’ll quickly find that taking a date to breakfast or lunch can save you as much as 40% of the restaurant bill without altering the quality of the meal or the dating experience. For people whose hours have been cut back, making plans during the day to date others is easier than you might think at first.

A common claim is that dating at night is necessary because going out to the clubs and bars is the easiest place to meet people, but that also isn’t true. It’s a total scam to think that meeting people that way is necessary; it’s a scam that club owners perpetuate because it helps them earn more of your money every time you visit them.

Take a look at a site like Fling.com when you have a free moment. Instead of spending $12 on each drink and $150 on dinner, why not meet people online for free and arrange an afternoon of entertainment that would not only be more likely to help you find someone worth dating… but would be infinitely easier to fit within your budget as well!

Sometimes saving money means thinking outside the box. Simple changes in the ordinary pattern of your life can simultaneously add new excitement and significant savings to dating and other activities as well. You’ll see some people posting that dating sites are a scam, but ill bet you dollars to doughnuts that those are the same club owners and bar owners who have been scamming you all along… fearful that you’ll find out there are better and cheaper ways to meet the love of your life, or to find the next hot fling.